I am sitting in my room reflecting today on this very difficult day. I am on my way to the funeral of my best friend’s dad. This is a very difficult day for her as her dad suffered for 3 years and finally the day has come to say goodbye. Memories of my dad fill me today! A lot of us have people in our lives that we have to say goodbye to. It could be a death, a divorce, a breakup, end of a friendship, or a separation. We have to close a door. Closing doors in a very tough thing to do.
The things that have helped me through the tough times are:
- Celebrate the person or the place. Think of them with fond memories. Recall what they brought to your life and the lessons they have taught you.
- Be grateful for having them in your life.
- Pray for them and wish them well. Sometimes if it is a bad experience not easy but trust me it is a good thing to do. Never keep hatred towards others.
- Forgive – That is the toughest part for many people. Forgiving them is not for them. It is for you. It is to help you move forward in your life. Release the negative energy and let go.
- Spend time alone. Cry, pray, meditate. Release your feelings.
- Talk to the people who are your close-knit group. Let people support you. Do not do this alone! Your good friends are there for you. All you need to do is ask.
- Seek support from outside help like a counselor/coach/grieve counselor. The CLSC (Montreal health care system) are a great support!
- If it is a person who passed away remember that they are with us always as Angels. My dad to this day guides me and is with me always. You just have to be open to hearing them.
- Take the time you need to heal. Everybody heals at a different pace.
- Spend time in nature. So very healing!
- Finally when you are ready release them! Close that door! New doors will open!
Dedicated to my friend Gaby and her wonderful dad Gonzalo! May he rest in peace!