Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!

The above statement has been the story of my life for the last three years. Before that I lived in my comfort zone.  Anything that was uncomfortable I would avoid, brush under the rug, change the subject, basically do everything to avoid it.  I was not happy living in my comfort zone but at the time that place was easier and safer than taking risks.  I was also conforming to what others expected of me and what culturally was expected of me (I am Lebanese).  I knew there was more to my life but didn’t know what.  I felt this ache in my soul but continued with the day to day routine of my life.

In 2013 a big change happened in my life. I moved to Canada and my marriage fell apart.  I had been a person that was never fully independent.  I relied on others for my happiness and many other things. I went from my family home to my home with my husband. When my marriage fell apart I felt lost! I felt fear! I didn’t know who I was! I didn’t know how to survive alone! All was new to me!  Fear and anxiety became my best friend! Everything was the unknown to me. I had no choice but to get up and take steps.

Things I do now to overcome my fear

  1. I meditate on it first. I ask for guidance.  I don’t dwell on it and keep it in my brain to take up space.
  2. I ask myself is the experience or the message more important than the actual fear. An example of this is last week I did my first video on Facebook. I was terrified.  I had been avoiding it for so long.  I decided that the message I needed to tell my following was too important.  I understood that the message was more important than what I looked like on camera.  So I did it! After I did it I realized it was not so bad.  Sometimes the build up is bigger than the actual thing.
  3. I trust God/the universe. I say I have a journey and if this is meant for me than the door will open if not it won’t and it wont be for me.  I may fall but by falling I have a lesson to learn.
  4. I feel it in my body. I put myself in the actual outcome in my mind and how it feels to me.  My body will tell me.  If my body feels calm I know, if my body doesn’t I also know. This applies to other decisions in your life.  Always check how your body feels.
  5. I look at my core beliefs and see if the decision I am scared to make aligns with my beliefs. If yes then I jump.
  6. I have a word for every year. 2017’s word is confidence. I ask myself if I do this will it bring me closer or further away from it.
  7. I check my vision board and ask the question “Does doing this get me closer to my dreams? If yes then I jump.
  8. Everybody has their way in overcoming their fears. Some take small steps.  I tend to jump and hope to be caught on the other side.
  9. Creativity and curiosity are clues to what you love to do. Keep heading towards that and slowly your fears will become less.
  10. Surround yourself with people who encourage, inspire you and guide you.
  11. The more that you have information on the subject or the thing you are going to do the less the fear. Information is power.
  12. The more you start to get to know yourself and what you want the less fear you have.

The above statement has been the story of my life for the last three years. Before that I lived in my comfort zone.  Anything that was uncomfortable I would avoid, brush under the rug, change the subject, basically do everything to avoid it.  I was not happy living in my comfort zone but at the time that place was easier and safer than taking risks.  I was also conforming to what others expected of me and what culturally was expected of me (I am Lebanese).  I knew there was more to my life but didn’t know what.  I felt this ache in my soul but continued with the day to day routine of my life.

In 2013 a big change happened in my life. I moved to Canada and my marriage fell apart.  I had been a person that was never fully independent.  I relied on others for my happiness and many other things. I went from my family home to my home with my husband. When my marriage fell apart I felt lost! I felt fear! I didn’t know who I was! I didn’t know how to survive alone! All was new to me!  Fear and anxiety became my best friend! Everything was the unknown to me. I had no choice but to get up and take steps.

Things I do now to overcome my fear

  1. I meditate on it first. I ask for guidance.  I don’t dwell on it and keep it in my brain to take up space.
  2. I ask myself is the experience or the message more important than the actual fear.

An example of this is last week I did my first video on facebook. I was terrified.  I had been avoiding it for so long.  I decided that the message I needed to tell my following was too important.  I understood that the message was more important than what I looked like on camera.  So I did it! After I did it I realized it was not so bad.  Sometimes the build up is bigger than the actual thing.

  1. I trust God/the universe. I say I have a journey and if this is meant for me than the door will open if not it won’t and it wont be for me.  I may fall but by falling I have a lesson to learn.
  2. I feel it in my body. I put myself in the actual outcome in my mind and how it feels to me.  My body will tell me.  If my body feels calm I know, if my body doesn’t I also know. This applies to other decisions in your life.  Always check how your body feels.
  3. I look at my core beliefs and see if the decision I am scared to make aligns with my beliefs. If yes then I jump.
  4. I have a word for every year. 2017’s word is confidence. I ask myself if I do this will it bring me closer or further away from it.
  5. I check my vision board and ask the question “Does doing this get me closer to my dreams? If yes then I jump.
  6. Everybody has their way in overcoming their fears. Some take small steps.  I tend to jump and hope to be caught on the other side.
  7. Creativity and curiosity are clues to what you love to do. Keep heading towards that and slowly your fears will become less.
  8. Surround yourself with people who encourage, inspire you and guide you.
  9. The more that you have information on the subject or the thing you are going to do the less the fear. Information is power.
  10. The more you start to get to know yourself and what you want the less fear you have.

Fear does not go away.  Anytime you are going to go into the unknow you will have a new fear.  That is healthy but don’t let fear cripple you from achieving your dreams. I still have my fears and still have things to push past .I  will when I am ready but I keep taking steps towards them.

I have achieved so many things because I have come out of the comfort zone.  I have amazing friends, I run many different groups that empower others to live their best lives, I am a spirituality Coach, I  blog, I have done my first video, I have learnt to be independent (still a work in progress), authentic and I feed my soul. I am an example now to my kids!

Enjoy the journey into the unknown!

Who is joining me?

Fear does not go away.  Anytime you are going to go into the unknown you will have a new fear.  That is healthy but don’t let fear cripple you from achieving your dreams. I still have my fears and still have things to push past .I  will when I am ready but I keep taking steps towards them.

I have achieved so many things because I have come out of the comfort zone.  I have amazing friends, I run many different groups that empower others to live their best lives, I am a spirituality Coach, I  blog, I have done my first video, I have learnt to be independent (still a work in progress), authentic and I feed my soul. I am an example now to my kids!

Enjoy the journey into the unknown!

Who is joining me?



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